You Can Care Without Carrying

 You sense the shift in their tone before they even say a word.
You soften yours.
You feel the tension in the room—and your body tightens to absorb it.

Not because they asked you to.
But because you’ve been living with an invisible script:
“If they’re not okay, it must be my job to fix it.”

This script often begins early.
A parent who struggled.
A home where peace was fragile.
A message—subtle or shouted—that your value came from keeping things smooth.

So now, love feels like labor.
You equate caring with carrying.
And your nervous system never fully exhales.

But here’s the gentle truth:
You are not responsible for everyone’s happiness.

You can love people without losing yourself.
You can be present without performing.
You can care deeply—without absorbing what was never yours to hold.

Ask yourself:

• When did I learn that peacekeeping meant self-abandonment?
  

• Who taught me that being loved meant being useful?
  

• What might change if I trusted others to carry their own emotions?
  

You can put the weight down.
It was never yours to carry forever.

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